Carry on with a Scar

In our lives bad things happen everyday to us, but its our choice whether to get up, brush it off and keep going through our lives. Why dwell on the past when a future lies ahead for us to capture? I'm not saying that if we lose family members, or friends we shouldn't grieve. That is impossible not to grieve our losses, of course unless your some psychotic person with no feelings for others, and yourself. But that should be something to give us strength to keep advancing on in our lives. In basketball when I play, if i miss a shot or make a mistake my team needs me to shake it off and keep playing because its a team effort and others need me, we need each other.

The summer reading that I chose to read was Cold Mountain. There is a lot of death around these characters, especially Inman. He speaks about grievances, and that we should not dwell on them, "All your grief hasn't changed a thing. What you have lost will not be returned to you. It will always be lost. You're left with only your scars to mark the voids. All you can do is choose to go on or not. But, if you go on, it's knowing you carry your scars with you." (334) There is a lot of truth behind this quote by Inman. He is true to say what you lose will not come back, if you mess up in a basketball game, like a bad shot you wont get that back. But, we use that mistake to carry on, a scar, and take that and use that to fuel the fire, to motivate yourself to not take that bad shot again. If a family member were to die, to pass on, of course you cannot just shrug it off, grieving is part of being human. What you cannot do is stop and break down and let it tear you down. As Inman says you have a scar to carry with you forever, but that scar reminds you that, that person is always with you in spirit and they are a force to pick you up when you are down or lost,

It is our choice whether to pick up and keep moving on with our lives, or let our trials get the best of us, and stop us from being the best we can be.